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After reading this, I realize that an evening of dinner and sharing memories would be like a vaccine against forgetting, because to me forgetting would be much more painful than remembering. In our memories lies the ability to idealize and create a depth of understanding we need to over ride the pain of loss. I'll take that vaccine and all the boosters I can get to keep memories alive because while we can't get a 'do over' or live in the past, we can use the lessons about what's really important moving forward. So keep talking and sharing your happiest memories, so you know they actually happened and let them replace your sadness.

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Thanks mom. You have such a beautiful way with words ❤

Thankfully we have each other to remind of memories since we basically raised him together.

I miss his funny kid days 😊

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Oh, that photo. My heart.

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He was such a funny kid. Going through old albums really makes me appreciate how he was as a boy. Never a dull moment!

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Such a great picture!!! My kinda kid. My photos and memories are precious. Yes, they sometimes make me sad - but the sadness is well worth it.

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Totally worth it!! I'd never give up the smiles.

About the picture, I wish it wasn't a 90s photo lol. All his kid pics are actual photographs that I had to take digital pics of for the memorial. But oh my God was it heart warming to go through albums ❤

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I would not give them up. That tiny bit of momentary pain reminds me of the goodness.

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I agree Michael. It's nice (but also not nice) to see you here ❤

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I absolutely get that, thank you.

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thanks for sharing your heart with us here.

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