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Who knew that a coroner might be one of the people who can offer the most powerful grace in such a hard time? But it makes sense, and thank God you had that woman on your son's case. Yet, sixteen months is a brutal time to wait. My husband's death was so sudden and unexpected that his doctor ordered an autopsy to determine the cause. I only had to wait ten days for it, but it was cold and clinical and weirdly distancing when I read the report. He wasn't referred to by name — that would have meant a lot.

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Oh wow, they didn't mention his name??? That sounds horrible and I'm sorry it was like that for you 😒 Your experience pretty much sounds like I thought it normally was. I guess that's why I was pleasantly surprised.

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Love that show! I’m glad your experience was as positive as it could be, given the circumstances, although you suffered such a delay.

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It's a pretty cool show isn't it? Very well done.

I think my delay had something to do with Vancouver. I think that city has way more cases to deal with than most Canadian cities.

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That makes sense - so sad though.

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I believe it takes a very special kind of person to be a coroner. I have no idea how much they get paid but I'm pretty sure they don't choose their profession to get rich but to recognize and use a special gift they 've been given. Without them many of us would not find peace or closure.

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Ain't that the truth! I think all people who work in sensitive and traumatic areas of the medical profession are a special breed of humans who choose their work for a reason.

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The coroner we dealt with after Kyle died was amazing. Considering what she deals with on a daily basis, never once did I feel like I was intruding. She was the kindest most compassionate person to talk to. I remember when I called , a few weeks after Kyle’s death, to find out the autopsy results, she asked is I was alone and did I want to hear this over the phone? Deep in my heart I knew the reason for his death but needed to hear the words for some weird reason. She was truly an amazing lady.

She answered any and all questions I had.

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Colleen, first I want to say thank you for being here. I didn't realize you had joined us!

I remember when we discussed this within our group, how we all felt it was such a bizarre topic to be talking about but it's comforting knowing we have each other to talk about the weirder stuff.

I'm glad your experience with your medical examiner was as comforting as mine was. As pleasant as a shitty experience can be.

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