Three days?! Wow. :/. How do they expect people wrap their head around a great loss in three days?! So Insulting to the bereaved ones. Not sure how they expect people to work especially if they're dealing with the public. 💓
There should be more more monetary initiatives for loved ones no matter what. . Great post.
I agree there should be some kind of ongoing assistance. I was shocked about the 3 days thing. I'm sure many bigger corporations offer longer term mental health pay or something similar but yeah, it's pretty surprising. And I have always wondered why the government has that one stipulation about how your child has to die.
As always, I'm so grateful that you share so many aspects of grief that I haven't thought about. It's honestly disgusting that the US doesn't have grief pay especially since we've lost at least 1 mil Americans in the past 2 years. So many people are suffering yet, it's "return to normal." 🙄
That "return to normal" part doesn't jive with me either. When we lose someone it's like only our lives changed. Nobody else's did and we're expected to just suck it up and act normal.
But there is no normal life, there's just life. And millions of us are trying our hardest to live it!
Once again, the Canadian government — while it assuredly has its flaws — is way out ahead of the USA on this. Not only is there zero government-paid bereavement pay for anyone for any kind of loss, but there is NO mandated bereavement leave at all. The standard among employers?The same whopping three days you got — and it's darkly amusing to read the HR policies that spell out exactly which level of loss qualifies for that (in-laws yes, cousins no, etc.). In my case, as you know, even though my husband had life insurance I couldn't afford to keep his small business closed, so I had to take it on two days after he died. Let's just say my management skills were not at their peak under those circumstances. Looking back I don't know how I did it — but if I'd lost a child rather than a husband, there's no way I could have gotten off the floor after two days, let alone go learn how to run a business.
Wow, NO bereavement pay at all?? That's shocking, yet not really.
I also couldn't imagine being in the situation you were in having to run a business to stay afloat. The fear alone would have done me in. All I had to do was my job, which I already knew how to do.
I guess it's what ultimately makes us resilient in the end. We somehow get through it.
Yep, at least it was a distraction. And since the US doesn't mandate ANY paid leave for ANYTHING (the only developed nation with that distinction) I guess it's not really such a shock. We only get paid time off at the largesse of our employers.
I agree 100% - "we should never have to sacrifice our mental and emotional well-being for money." Our system is built on all the wrong priorities.
So much wrong with it, for real. The things we learn as we plod along the systemic road, huh?
Yeah. It's pretty disheartening.
Three days?! Wow. :/. How do they expect people wrap their head around a great loss in three days?! So Insulting to the bereaved ones. Not sure how they expect people to work especially if they're dealing with the public. 💓
There should be more more monetary initiatives for loved ones no matter what. . Great post.
I agree there should be some kind of ongoing assistance. I was shocked about the 3 days thing. I'm sure many bigger corporations offer longer term mental health pay or something similar but yeah, it's pretty surprising. And I have always wondered why the government has that one stipulation about how your child has to die.
The things you learn huh?
As always, I'm so grateful that you share so many aspects of grief that I haven't thought about. It's honestly disgusting that the US doesn't have grief pay especially since we've lost at least 1 mil Americans in the past 2 years. So many people are suffering yet, it's "return to normal." 🙄
That "return to normal" part doesn't jive with me either. When we lose someone it's like only our lives changed. Nobody else's did and we're expected to just suck it up and act normal.
But there is no normal life, there's just life. And millions of us are trying our hardest to live it!
In Singapore, some companies ( usually mid to larger sized) have “ compassionate” paid leave days per year.
It’s for usually family-related events like loss of a dear ones. I don’t really know how many days there, depends on one’s pay grade/rank.
Also, it’s not a mandatory thing by law.
I would assume larger corporations here also have the capacity to give more days at their discretion. Unfortunately my company wasn't one of those.
It's such a tough call because who is really responsible for death? Nobody.
Once again, the Canadian government — while it assuredly has its flaws — is way out ahead of the USA on this. Not only is there zero government-paid bereavement pay for anyone for any kind of loss, but there is NO mandated bereavement leave at all. The standard among employers?The same whopping three days you got — and it's darkly amusing to read the HR policies that spell out exactly which level of loss qualifies for that (in-laws yes, cousins no, etc.). In my case, as you know, even though my husband had life insurance I couldn't afford to keep his small business closed, so I had to take it on two days after he died. Let's just say my management skills were not at their peak under those circumstances. Looking back I don't know how I did it — but if I'd lost a child rather than a husband, there's no way I could have gotten off the floor after two days, let alone go learn how to run a business.
Wow, NO bereavement pay at all?? That's shocking, yet not really.
I also couldn't imagine being in the situation you were in having to run a business to stay afloat. The fear alone would have done me in. All I had to do was my job, which I already knew how to do.
I guess it's what ultimately makes us resilient in the end. We somehow get through it.
Yep, at least it was a distraction. And since the US doesn't mandate ANY paid leave for ANYTHING (the only developed nation with that distinction) I guess it's not really such a shock. We only get paid time off at the largesse of our employers.