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A soft and personal piece. Sweet, the same and different at the same time. What go me sharply as I was reading was the things people say to you when you tell them somebody died. Its like they don't hear the words in their heads before they come out of their mouths. <sigh>

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You've definitely hit the nail on the head Michael. I think I wrote a piece about that way back when I started Grief Notes. The most absurd things people say with no consideration about how it may be received.

https://griefnotes.substack.com/p/absurd-things-people-say-when-someone

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Thank you for sharing, Pooja. I've found grief is only understood by the grieving. Thank you, Kristi, for this group and a safe place to fall.

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You're very welcome! I have also found that this group for me, is a sense of camaraderie. I truly enjoy writing here even though the topic sucks.

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❤️ A beautiful piece of writing, Pooja!

I think it's ok to say, "I don't know what to say". to someone who is grieving, especially if they have just lost someone, so long as it's said in a kind way. And I hope, better than any ignorant or hurtful sentiments.

I've learned so much from reading your posts Kristi. If there's anything I hope people will finally understand, there is NO TIME TABLE for grief. Also, be willing to listen if that's all someone needs. Or simply BE with them. ❤️

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Isn't her storytelling beautiful? I've read another piece of hers in her own publication and her writing is so comforting.

I really appreciate you saying that you're learning from these posts. Some days I wonder what it's all for lol. I mean, I'm not fixing people. But it fills me with contentment knowing you guys read and participate.

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❤️. I enjoyed her piece so much!

I have no doubt your posts are touching many lives. It means more coming from someone who has experience. It's also comforting to people who have lost loved ones due to other circumstances. 🤗

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Beautiful ...

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I loved this, Pooja! Brought back memories of the tilted-axis world after my mother’s death. So many rituals and comforts are lost with our mothers! 💜🤗💜

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Beautifully expressed, Pooja. I hope this piece finds a wide readership: it will resonate with many.

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