How to Make Contact With a Lost Loved One
It's not as woo-woo as it sounds.
It’s probably safe to say that we would all choose to communicate with someone we’ve lost if given the ability, right?
Connecting with a lost loved one doesn’t have to be a mystical event worthy of its own Netflix series, though.
It can just be a quiet occurrence that happens in your living room on a day of your choosing. It could be something you practice in your peaceful moments, all alone.
Remember a while back when I wrote about “Urning and Learning?” The photo in that post is how I display my son’s urn in my living room. His headphones hanging overtop are a permanent fixture.
He used them every single day during his gym time or while creating music. Now I use them every day.
I consider those headphones to be one of the best gifts he left behind.
Each morning I lay on my couch for a quiet, ten-minute meditation session through the Calm app on my phone. I use his headphones to drown out all outside distractions while ruminating in my breathwork.
Then, when I’ve finished my session I carefully hang the headphones back over his urn and say, “Thank you for your gift of connection today, bud.”
Of course, I haven’t connected with him but I have connected deeply with myself and that is a gift I’ve truly come to appreciate each day.
I like to think he gave me the inspiration to connect with myself. I could easily meditate without the headphones but in putting them over my ears, everything else goes away for a short while.
It’s like existing inside my own quiet grotto.
I’m always looking for ways to feel closer to him since he’s been gone. I want to touch things he has physically touched and be intimate with things that were part of his everyday life.
If you knew him you’d know that rarely was there a moment when he wasn’t wearing his headphones. They are part of who he was.
So, no, I’m not able to communicate with the dead but I am able to make connections that are meaningful to me. And meaning is something we’re all searching for these days.
How about you? Are there any small acts of connection that you routinely practice to feel closer to a lost loved one?
Speaking of Netflix, it does have some pretty compelling docu-series about what happens after death if you’re into those kinds of things.
Here are links to the trailers:
I love you find comfort in using your son's headphones. What a great idea to stay connected. I ask for signs. I always get them. One morning I asked for a sign, then went about my day. I came home from an errand to find begonia petals spread across the kitchen, dining area, and living room. I have begonias in my kitchen window. All the windows in the house were closed. I could tell dozens of stories like this. Just ask. Out loud. Our loved ones in spirit are only a thought away.
Of course my connections with my grandson are all about his intellect. I still feel weird talking out loud to him, but I often pick up little pearls of wisdom from programs I listen to or things I read such as "look at the natural world for the answers to life's challenges." By googling that expression I learned about a whole science called Biomimicry, that I'd never heard of before. I've been collecting these kinds of proverbial sayings for years. I used to send them to my grandson who shared them in his "bubble" and always told me the guys loved and were inspired by them.